Growing A Positive Mind

Growing a Positive Mind

Today there is a wealth of information available to us. We received tons of it each second. As you walk through a store, drive in your car, look through a magazine, change a radio station, no matter where you are news and information is flowing and available. Have you ever noticed how much of the information is positive, helpful, or nurturing? All day people are often receiving information much of which is judgements, negative news, crazy negative conversations on a social media site. With all of this around us all day how can you grow a positive mindset?

Jim Rohn has said we should stand guard at the door of our mind. It is important to consciously choose what you will allow in your mind. Some of the thoughts and ideas available to us can be like weeds and grow and impact our ability to perceive the abundance, joy, connections, fun, and beauty there is in the world. If we do not consciously choose what to focus on, we are giving those negative ideas carte blanche to grow wild.Positive Mind

Today we have so many options available to us, it is easy to proactively feed your mind. We have podcasts, books on tape, education networks, video channels such as youtube, and so many more choices where we are in control of what we see and hear all day. We can choose positively feeding our minds all throughout the day. On your morning commute you can listen to a book or inspirational speaker. At home you can choose your radio stations and tv stations and listen to information that makes you feel good. It is a choice that truly shapes who we are and how we think all day.

 

Imagine the difference in your mood all day. You may even be able to make your morning commute to work more enjoyable. You will find as time goes on that the moment you hear the negative news on the radio or television you immediately choose to change the channel. You may also find these choices having an impact on your close friends and family, your overall mood, and your perspective as things occur throughout your day.

The more you make consciously choosing what you listen to each day a habit, the easier it is to foster a positive mindset. Choices as small as these each day make a big difference as whole in the long run. It is good to feel good. Choose something that supports that every day.

STOP RUNNING OUT OF TIME- MAKING TIME FOR YOU

STOP RUNNING OUT OF TIME- MAKING TIME FOR YOU

 

Have you noticed your reaction or the faction of those around you when you hear someone say “it takes 15 minutes a day”? Today a statement like that tends to make people roll their eyes, laugh, or feel anxious. Most people honestly feel there is not enough time in a day to add anything else in their life.

Today most people wear many hats. No one has the luxury of having just one role in life. We

Timearesomeone’s child, someone’s parent, someones partner, someones employer, someones employee, coach, team member, friend, and the list keeps growing. As the list grows it seems to be each role requires time and tasks. As a result, many people function by creating long to-do lists, lists they often feel guilty about not having time to complete.

What if the answer to changing how we create time for all that we love and have in our lives is not found in a to do list? There are ways to chunk your time so you can have a much greater level of efficiency in your life.

One technique that many of my clients find useful is chunking. For those of you who are teachers you know the concept, this just applies it differently. Chunking is literally grouping together tasks and information into smaller parts so you can effectively accomplish your desired outcome. When you are able to do accomplish more, it makes a tremendous difference in how you feel each day about you.

In education we learn most people can focus on only a few things at one thing at a time. In order to learn or do things with more ease, if we break information and tasks into groups of threes. If we do more than that, we can feel overwhelmed, and possibly even choose to do nothing because it just all seems to be too much.

If you are not reaching your goals, do not beat yourself up, it is not because you are not good enough or are lacking skills. It usually is because of the process you are using to get it done. If you can take a step back and chunk into groups everything you need to do you are changing your perception and you are more likely to get it all done.

STEP 1- Get it Out Of Your Mind

We are all used to creating to-do lists. This actually can still be done as a first step instead of the only step. Write down everything on your mind that you need to get done or would like to accomplish. To help limit your list to some extent start with just the next week. Write everything down, not just what you have to do, include the things you would like to do in the next seven days.

Step 2- Create Categories

Now that you have everything out of your mind and onto paper, begin reading your list to find items that have things in common. Some sample categories may be work, family, money, and fun. Use those headings to break your list into smaller, more manageable chunks.

Step 3- Priorities

Once you have your information in chunks under specific categories you begin to be able to see what is most important to you to accomplish. What you actually have created in your lists are small chunks of desired outcomes. With all of the demands we have pulling us in so many directions each day, it is easy to lose track of what our desired outcomes and priorities are in our lives. When we take the few extra minutes to break it all down in this format we can make conscious decisions and take actions that meet our real demand, specific desired outcomes. In the end, changing your focus in this way allows you to feel back in the drivers seat, using your time in ways that best serve you. Simple changes, the can truly change how you feel about yourself, and how much you create in your life.

 

There are many resources available to you if you would like more information on this topic. Here is one by Stephen Covey- 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People

 

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Breaking Bad Habits

Breaking Bad Habits

Breaking Bad Habits

Habits are behaviors or thoughts that we do repeatedly without even thinking about it. The science behind the creation of habits is quite simple. Our brains are incredible. They can learn, process information, give us information. On a day a day to day basis however, our brain to some extent does not get involved in what we are doing. It does get involved when we are learning a new behavior or thought. After that the behaviors, skills, and thoughts become stored in a way that may be viewed as being  similar to a pipe laid underground. It becomes part of a regular circuit for tasks and thoughts that occur repeatedly. After you truly have practiced and know a behavior or thought it becomes part of this automated system.
Each of us have hundreds of behaviors and thoughts that we use in our daily life. Many of these are actual neutral or beneficial behaviors. We shower, get dressed, we wash our hands and brush our teeth. Some develop routines for habits that may include exercise, meditation or sitting in the same seat all the time, or eating at the same place for dinner regularly.

This information is quite helpful to us because when you understand how habits are formed you can also learn how to break them, and how create new ones. Habits are created by repeating  behaviors or thoughts over time. They are sometimes triggered by a situation. It is very important to note we are not paying attention or consciousiously aware as we doing them.
3 Tips to Successfully Break A Habit
Thanks to science we realize we can create new habits that over time become the new automatic pilot for our actions each day.

Pay Attention. The first step is to notice when you are choosing the habit. Catch yourself and write down the time, the possible trigger, and what you were doing before you chose the action you want to change. This requires us to be willing to be aware and more present throughout the day.
Identify a preferred action. Many of our habits are easier to break if we switch our behavior. We are so entrained to take action in specific situations. If we choose a different action that replaces the old one, this can be quite helpful. For example, instead of grabbing the can of soda when you are at lunch with friends, you stop yourself and grab water. You still are choosing an action. Now you are choosing one that is more nurturing for you.
Repetition. Research shows it takes 21 days to create a habit. Once 21 days passes it becomes a new circuit, a new pipe that has now been placed. This allows you to begin to choose the preferred action without much thought or effort after you have practiced the action consistently for approximately three weeks.

There are many reasons someone may desire to create a habit, or end a habit. I often provide people with new mantras to assist them during the process. This helps them change their self talk to words that support them during the process. It is also important to remember to be kind to you if you have a moment, or a day that you did not feel successful. The important piece is you are aware, you are choosing more for yourself, and just give yourself credit for what you have done, and keep moving forward towards your goal. You can do this.